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How to use Sex Toys

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How to use Sex Toys

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October 19, 2023

Sex toys are pretty key tools for us here at GASM. The painter has their brush, the writer their pen (or laptop) and us sexual educators/explorers have a drawer full of equipment to pulse, suck, enfold and, of course, vibrate. But whether you have a bulging toy box and are looking for something new to change things up or you’re newer to the world of sex toys, we’ve got you.

Sex toys have been around for centuries

But in recent years there’s been a boom in what’s available, thanks to more liberal attitudes and more readily available technology and manufacturing processes. It’s also worth saying that toys can and should be used by everyone. 

Sex toys have historically focused more on female pleasure but there’s also a large range of gender non-specific toys and toys designed especially for men ensuring that everyone gets their chance to play.

But with so many options available, where to start? Dive in with us as we uncover top tips on how to use Sex Toys. 

1. Begin with the Basics

For those new to the world of adult toys, it might be tempting to purchase that biggest, most complicated looking thing you can find, with all the bells (pun intended) and whistles. Starting simple though, is often the best way forward.

Tip: Start with versatile classics like the bullet vibrator or simple silicone rings. They’re user-friendly, and their straightforward designs can be used in various ways.

2. Safety First

It’s essential to prioritize your well-being. Not all toys are created equal, so it’s crucial to buy from reputable brands and stores.

Tip: Look for non-porous materials like silicone, stainless steel, and glass. Avoid toys made of jelly rubber as they can contain harmful chemicals and are harder to clean.

3. Lube, Lube, and More Lube!

A good lubricant can make a world of difference. It’ll give you a smoother experience, reduce friction, and improve sensation.

Tip: Always check the compatibility of your lube with your toy. For example, avoid using silicone-based lubes with silicone toys as it can degrade the material.

4. Cleaning is Caring

Keeping your toys clean ensures they last longer and helps you avoid any potential infections. 

Tip: Clean your toys before and after each use with mild soap and water or a cleaner specifically designed for adult toys. Store them in a cool, dry place, preferably in cloth bags to prevent dust accumulation. Take a look at our deep dive to ensure that you’re getting your toys squeaky clean.

5. Know Yourself

Understanding your body is key. Are you looking for external stimulation, internal sensations, or both? Choose your toys accordingly.

Tip: If unsure, multi-purpose toys that offer both internal and external stimulation can be a great starting point.

6. Solo or Duo or More?

Sex toys can enhance solo sessions and add spice to couple or group play. Decide on what context you’re likely to use the toy, as this can guide your purchase.

Tip: For couples or groups, consider remote-controlled toys or those designed for shared pleasure.

7. Reviews are Golden

The world of adult toys is vast. Fortunately, many brave souls have journeyed before you and left a trail in the form of reviews.

Tip: Check out user reviews and expert opinions online before making a purchase. They can provide invaluable insights into the performance of a product.

8. Set the Mood

Your environment plays a big role in your overall experience. The right ambiance can make your adventures with your toy even more enjoyable.

Tip: Consider dimming the lights, playing some soothing tunes, or even lighting a scented candle to set the scene. Alternatively kink it up with something more hardcore.

9. Experiment and Explore

The beauty of sex toys is the variety they offer. Over time, don’t be afraid to venture out and try something new. Maybe today's a day for a classic vibrator, and tomorrow, you'll explore the delightful pulses of an air-suction toy.

Tip: Keep an open mind. What you enjoy might change over time, and that’s perfectly okay.

10. Communication is Key

If you’re introducing toys into partner play, communication becomes crucial. It's essential to ensure both parties are comfortable and on board with the experience.

Tip: Discuss boundaries and desires openly. Sometimes, the act of choosing a toy together can be a delightful form of foreplay!

11. Different Types of Toys: 

Finger Vibrators

What they do: Finger vibrators are adjustable rings with pads that transform your fingers into stimulating devices.

How you use them: Slip them on your fingers and use lubrication to ensure a smooth glide. Ideal for teasing over sensitive areas like nipples and inner thighs, adjust their position on your finger for added control.


What they do: Dildos are all about getting inside and making you feel good once they’re there. Thrusting, Rabbits, double ended all 

How you use them: Designed for hands-free pleasure, many also feature additional vibrating functions for enhanced stimulation. Perfect for solo use.

Rabbit Dildos

What they do: Renowned from "Sex and the City", rabbit dildos offer dual stimulation, penetrating the vagina while also targeting the clitoris.

How you use them: Adjust to your preferred vibration and pace, using its thrusting feature for hands-free pleasure.


What they do: Comprising a harness and dildo, this allows one partner to penetrate another.

How you use them: Strap it on and go. For an enhanced experience, using a belt can provide better control during doggy-style.

Vibrating Panties

What they do: Underwear designed for pleasure with integrated vibrators.

How you use them: Some operate via remote or smartphone, while others need direct interaction. Wireless variants offer surprise stimulations, controlled by someone else.

Double-Ended Dildos

What they do: Designed for dual penetration, these cater to two partners simultaneously.

How you use them: Ideal for couple play or solo female sessions for dual penetration. Extra lubrication might be needed.

Cock Cages

What they do: Metal or plastic cages preventing erections, serving those into chastity play.

How you use them: Insert penis, lock it up, and designate a keyholder. Suitable for short durations; lubricate to prevent chafing.

Hands-Free Vibrators

What they do: Vibrators designed to stay in place, targeting areas like the clitoris.

How you use them: Lay down, position the toy, and enjoy. Remote or app controls provide variability.

Penis Rings

What they do: Enhances and prolongs erections by restricting blood flow.

How you use them: Slide onto the penis pre-erection; it tightens with arousal. Some versions also encircle the testicles.

Nipple Clamps

What they do: Clamps creating stimulating pressure on nipples.

How you use them: Attach to nipples and adjust intensity. Varieties include magnetic and chain-based clamps.

Prostate Massagers

What they do: Targets the nerve-rich prostate for enhanced pleasure.

How you use them: Choose a shape and feature set that works for you. Some models cater to both partners. If you’re interested in learning more about Butt stuff check our take on Prostate Orgasms.


What they do: Popular male toy for masturbation, available in manual or automatic versions.

How you use them: Primarily for solo use, but can be integrated into partner play.

Male Vibrators with Lubrication

What they do: Vibrators designed specifically for men.

How you use them: Use with suitable lubrication for an optimal experience. Models vary in shape and functionality, with some designed for shared use.

Sex Furniture

What They Do: Sex furniture aids in achieving and maintaining optimal positions for intimacy, enhancing comfort and pleasure. Examples include wedge pillows, sex swings, and shower grips.

How to Use Them: Incorporate into your intimate moments to support and enhance specific positions. For elevation during penetration, use a wedge pillow. Take a look at our deep dive into sex furniture for more information


What They Do: BDSM toys enhance erotic experiences through dominant and submissive role-playing, intensifying sensations.

How to Use Them: Start with basic items like handcuffs, blindfolds, or restraints for heightened focus on physical sensations. For those into spanking, paddles and whips are options. Always establish trust, communicate, and have a safe word for boundary setting. There’s a huge world in BDSM from kinky materials like leather, latex and PVC to equipment to take things to another level like electrical stimulation devices and fucking machines. Take a look at our deep dive into BDSM for more information

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Sex toys are more than just objects; they're gateways to self-discovery, intimacy enhancement, and heaps of fun. Whether you're a novice or a seasoned enthusiast, there's always something new to learn and explore in this ever-evolving world. By following GASMS best practices and top tips, you'll be well on your way to making the most of these delightful devices. So go forth, explore, and most importantly, enjoy the ride! 🚀

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